Written By Bisi Adewale
Christmas is not just about decorations, outings, clothes, or food. It is about connection. It is the season God reminds us that love must be nurtured, not neglected. Sadly, many couples celebrate Christmas side by side but live emotionally miles apart.
If this Christmas will truly bless your marriage, then it must go beyond celebration, it must lead to reconnection. Below are 10 intentional, wise, and deeply romantic things every couple should do together this Christmas season.
1. Pray together—slowly, sincerely, and consistently
Prayer is not just a religious activity; it is emotional intimacy before God. When couples pray together, walls fall, pride melts, and hearts open. This Christmas, don’t rush your prayers. Pray for your spouse’s fears, dreams, health, strength, and growth. When a man hears his wife pray for him, or a woman hears her husband pray for her, love is renewed at a deeper level.
2. Sit down and truly talk—heart to heart
Many couples talk every day, yet never truly communicate. This Christmas, create a quiet moment with no phones, no television, and no interruptions. Ask questions like, “How have I hurt you without knowing?” and “What can I do to make you happier?” Listening without defending yourself is one of the greatest acts of love.
3. Remember your journey together
Take time to talk about how you met, the struggles you survived, the prayers God answered, and the sacrifices you both made. Gratitude strengthens affection. When couples remember where they started, they are less likely to destroy what they have built. Remembrance fuels appreciation.
4. Forgive intentionally and completely
Christmas is about forgiveness. Unforgiveness poisons love silently. This season, let go of old grudges, harsh words, disappointments, and offenses you have been holding onto. Say it clearly and sincerely: “I forgive you.” Forgiveness does not rewrite the past, but it releases your marriage from emotional captivity.
5. Plan the coming year together
A couple without a shared vision will drift apart emotionally. Sit together and discuss your goals for the coming year, finances, parenting, career, spiritual growth, and personal improvement. When couples plan together, they grow together. Unity in vision brings peace into marriage.
6. Serve others together
Find someone in need and help together, visit the less privileged, support a struggling family, or give generously. Serving together deepens emotional bonding and reminds couples that love is not self-centered. Shared service strengthens shared purpose.
7. Share a meal with intention
Whether at home or outside, eat together slowly. Talk. Laugh. Appreciate each other. Compliment your spouse genuinely. A shared meal is not just about food, it is about presence. Many marriages heal at the dining table when hearts are open.
8. Speak loving and affirming words
Words build or destroy. This Christmas, intentionally speak life into your spouse. Tell them what you appreciate, admire, and respect about them. Many spouses are tired, not because they are weak, but because no one affirms them. Appreciation rekindles romance.
9. Create a memorable moment together
Do something simple but meaningful, take a walk, dance at home, watch a movie, pray at midnight, or take pictures together. These moments become emotional anchors during difficult times. Memories strengthen commitment.
10. Renew your commitment to each other
Privately recommit to your marriage. Promise to love more deeply, forgive faster, communicate better, and pray more. Marriage is not sustained by feelings alone, but by daily decisions. Christmas is the perfect season to choose each other again.
Final Thought
This Christmas, don’t just decorate your house, decorate your marriage.
Don’t just exchange gifts, exchange hearts.
Don’t just celebrate the season, celebrate your spouse.
A marriage that is intentionally nurtured during Christmas will carry that warmth into the new year.