5 Essential Truths Every Woman Should Hear

It’s been some time since I directed my writing towards women.
These tips can significantly impact all of us.

📌First, try to avoid rudeness. It’s crucial to be self-aware and recognize your feminine strengths. As you achieve success, you may feel you’ve reached a certain level, but remember that rudeness is off-putting. 
Social media doesn’t create equals among people. It provides an equal platform, but not everyone is your friend. 
Always speak respectfully to those who aren’t close friends.
When declining invitations, maintain respect as well. There’s no need to belittle someone’s background just because you don’t like their approach.

📌Secondly, while you dress modestly, ensure that your words are equally respectful. This underscores the idea that appearances aren’t everything.
Just looking decent isn’t enough if your words can deeply hurt someone. I recall a young man complaining about a woman who, based on her appearance, should be wonderful. 
At first, I thought he was being petty, but then I heard her speak. She prefaced her comments with, ‘With all due respect……’, which is often a prelude to disrespectful remarks. No kidding 🤣 
I chuckled when she claimed she won’t tolerate nonsense and will respond bluntly. ‘I’m not arrogant, just intolerant of junk.’
Having no tolerance for nonsense doesn’t mean your words have to be explosive.
You can express your opinions assertively. While there are moments when being blunt is necessary, make sure it doesn’t become a habit.

📌Thirdly, if you want to be respected, start treating your life with seriousness. Are you investing in your mind as much as your appearance?
This isn’t to shame you or dictate how to spend your money; it’s about you realizing the importance of learning. In today’s world, brains are equally essential for respect and success.
You can’t fume over a course costing N20,000 while willingly spending lavishly on beauty treatments. 
Enhance your appearance ✅
But also invest in your mind. ✅✅
Look at the women who stand out. While beauty may attract attention, it’s their intelligence that keeps people engaged.
There’s a young woman active in politics in my state. I admired her beauty until I saw her speak on television—her intelligence blew me away. 
Now that it’s July, many of you haven’t read any books, enrolled in any courses, or sought new knowledge—not because of lack of funds, but because you’re focused solely on appearance.

📌Fourthly, if you’re considering marriage, seek out quality marital knowledge. Saying, “God will help us” when asked about seeking marital education is nice, but why didn’t you skip university if God’s support was sufficient? 
Just like you prioritize other life facets, make your romantic life a priority too. 
Recently, someone told me, “Ody, I’ve realized the significance of making the right choices and arming myself with the right knowledge about relationships, especially as a successful woman.” 
That’s the reality. You don’t want to spend years building yourself only to end up with a partner who jeopardizes your achievements.

📌Fifthly, remain connected to God. 
Don’t reach a point of feeling overly self-sufficient.
You, who were born after prophecies were made, start doubting God’s presence.
You once sought God to elevate you to a platform where you could freely discuss Him but now shy away from mentioning JESUS online to seem inclusive.
You, who couldn’t go a day without prayer and reflection, can now go weeks without even a quick prayer due to busyness.
You may argue with those believing success stems from God, naming a hundred successful non-believers. But what defines success? Is it just wealth?
You don’t know what paths they’ve taken behind the scenes. Remember, every ‘successful’ individual has a strategy—they might not disclose it, and they don’t have to. 
If you sever ties with your source, it won’t be long before you start losing your edge.