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Let’s explore how to release limiting beliefs. When we face difficulties with habits—such as drinking, excessive scrolling, shopping, or overworking—we often try to “fix” the behavior directly. However, real and lasting change starts from within. The true transformation occurs when we let go of the beliefs fueling our actions: the thought that we need them to unwind, fit in, handle stress, celebrate, or feel good about ourselves. By adjusting these beliefs, we allow our behaviors to shift naturally, frequently with much less struggle.
TL;DR: Learning how to release limiting beliefs isn’t about forcing behavior change; it’s about gently unpacking the beliefs that keep those behaviors recurring. When you let go of limiting beliefs, you open up space for forgiveness, mental clarity, and a brighter future. This is the core of meaningful change—and exploring your beliefs about alcohol through a structured, compassionate lens can make alternative choices feel effortless.
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Why Behavior Hacks Don’t Work
For years, I treated habits as if they were weeds: just keep pulling, and eventually, they’ll stop returning. But like weeds, habits have deep roots connected to beliefs. If you stop drinking without examining the belief that it helps you relax, bond, or cope, you may end up substituting one habit for another—whether it’s sugar, shopping, or overworking. This explains why cross-addictions occur: we modify the action while the assumption stays the same.
Annie Grace: “Most drinkers believe they drink because they want to, enjoy it, and choose to do it.” This belief, more than the action itself, keeps us trapped.
Research in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has shown that our interpretations of events influence our responses more than the events themselves. When perceptions change, reactions change. If you’re interested, the Beck Institute provides a comprehensive overview of the cognitive model along with helpful ways to reassess unhelpful thoughts.
Beliefs: The Hidden Force Behind Our Habits
Every decision carries an underlying narrative:
- “I can’t manage stress without a drink.”
- “I’m the fun person; not drinking makes me dull.”
- “If I decline, I’m being selfish.”
These aren’t failures of character; they are strategies learned for feeling safe, accepted, and comforted. When you change the belief driving the behavior, transformation becomes easier. Instead of battling with yourself every evening, you can reshape the inner dialogue: “I can unwind in ways that truly leave me refreshed and proud for tomorrow.”
Annie Grace: “When you fundamentally shift your mental (both conscious and unconscious) view on alcohol… no willpower is needed, and it becomes a pleasure not to drink.” Belief leads, behavior follows.
Try this prompt to shift your beliefs:
- Pay attention to the moment you feel drawn to an old habit.
- Ask: What belief do I need to hold for this to feel necessary now?
- Challenge that belief: Is it completely true? What alternatives could exist?
- Select a kinder, more accurate belief—then take your next, smallest aligned step.
Rumination, Identity, and the Illusion of Control
When feeling stuck, we often remain trapped in our thoughts—replaying the past and envisioning negative outcomes. This phenomenon is known in psychology as rumination: a continuous, passive focus on distress and its sources without effective coping. It’s closely tied to anxiety and depression. Letting go involves, in part, releasing the mental replays that keep our pain “on loop.” To understand more about rumination and mental well-being, check out the American Psychological Association and academic research summaries.
Another challenging aspect is identity. If you’ve defined yourself as the “weekend warrior” or “life of the party,” removing alcohol might feel like removing yourself. However, identity is surprisingly adaptable; as beliefs evolve, identity can transform too. You’re not disappearing; you’re shedding what’s no longer relevant, allowing your true self to flourish.
Annie Grace: “We must be open to the possibility that we could all be completely wrong.” Letting go begins with the humility to reevaluate our beliefs about ourselves.
Consider The Alcohol Experiment
If this resonates with you, start your journey not with willpower, but with curiosity. The Alcohol Experiment is a free, guided 30-day program designed to help you reflect on your beliefs about alcohol in a supportive, scientifically-informed manner so that change feels seamless rather than forced. It offers a gentle approach to shedding limiting beliefs around alcohol and paving the way for lasting freedom.
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Forgiveness: prioritizing yourself, not justifying others
Letting go can lead to unexpected opportunities—particularly in regard to forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t imply that what occurred is acceptable; it’s about prioritizing yourself and your peace of mind. Research by psychologist Everett Worthington indicates that forgiveness can have significant health and relationship benefits, and his REACH model provides a practical guideline you might want to explore. For more about this approach, visit the Greater Good Science Center and Worthington’s research at VCU.
Forgiving yourself is also crucial. Many individuals tend to be harsh on themselves for past decisions, often due to unexplored beliefs. Researcher Kristin Neff describes self-compassion as including mindfulness, a sense of shared humanity, and being kind to yourself—treating yourself the way you would treat a close friend during tough times. It’s not about indulgence; it’s about creating a solid base for lasting change, backed by research. Check out self-compassion.org for further insights and practices.
Dr. Kristin Neff: Self-compassion entails “self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.” Cultivating these aspects helps disrupt cycles of shame that perpetuate outdated beliefs.
Neuroplasticity: the truth about rewiring
Great news for those doubtful about change: rewiring your brain isn’t mere fantasy—it’s a biological fact. Neuroplasticity means your brain adapts based on your experiences and practices. This concept is often summed up by Hebb’s famous phrase: “neurons that fire together, wire together.” By challenging old beliefs and practicing new ones, you can help your brain create new pathways, making aligned choices feel more natural over time. For a concise, evidence-supported summary, refer to the StatPearls review on Neuroplasticity and addiction at the National Institute on Drug Abuse.
Dr. Aaron T. Beck: Cognitive therapy enables individuals to experience life “in the present with full meaning and satisfaction”—free from the chains of past narratives and future anxieties. Changing beliefs liberates behavior to follow suit.
Annie Grace: I’ve seen it in countless individuals: the moment a belief shifts, behaviors align. That’s why we prioritize clarity over control—focusing on truth instead of willpower.
A quick two-minute practice to build new pathways:
- Identify it: “Old belief: I can’t relax without a drink.”
- Reframe it: “New belief: My body can relax; I’m discovering faster, kinder alternatives.”
- Practice it: Take 3 deep breaths, then engage in a small action (like stretching, messaging a friend, or stepping outside).
- Recognize the win: Write down one positive outcome you noticed (like a clearer mind, calmer mood, or improved sleep).
Repeat. Repetition signals to your brain: this is our new identity.
From “last call” on limitations to first steps ahead
Here’s the uplifting truth: learning to let go establishes a new standard. It’s a declaration that you will no longer let the past control your peace, health, or happiness. You cease allowing outdated beliefs the authority to dictate your future. This change paves the way to new creative pursuits, relationships, education you’ve previously avoided, or simply to mornings filled with freshness and relief.
Letting go also opens you to new possibilities and connections. When you release the past’s grip, you make room for a future filled with a new career, a neglected hobby, supportive friendships, and the kind of love that feels deserved because you finally acknowledge your worth.
Annie Grace: “Now… I can compare my sober self to the person I was when I drank… my feelings are entirely my own.” Letting go is more than just releasing a habit; it’s gaining the ability to feel, choose, and create.
It’s the “last call” for limiting beliefs and the “boarding call” for a life that is authentically yours. If you’re ready to take the first step, start by picking one belief today. Write it down. Question it. Substitute it with something that feels more truthful and kinder. Then take one action that aligns with this new belief. Follow this method: belief → micro-action → evidence → identity. Repeat until freedom feels habitual.
About Annie Grace
I’m the founder of This Naked Mind and the creator of The Alcohol Experiment. My work integrates neuroscience, psychology, and compassionate behavioral change to assist individuals in transforming their relationship with alcohol and, more importantly, with themselves. My aim is not to shame your choices but to encourage you to examine the beliefs that influence them, allowing you to build a fulfilling life without needing to numb yourself.
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