❎ Ladies, kindly avoid wearing a singlet without a bra when greeting others, especially if the man isn’t your biological brother. I understand you appreciate the comfort of being braless after a long day, but it’s important to show respect for the household. If a bra feels uncomfortable at home, consider getting a comfortable padded bra singlet to wear with your house clothes.
❎ Men, wearing boxers that leave little to the imagination is inappropriate when staying with a married couple—regardless if the wife is your sister. Make sure to dress appropriately and cover your sensitive areas. Keep in mind that, although you want to be comfortable, you’re not in your own home.
You aren’t aware of any private struggles this couple may be facing, such as issues with lust, self-control, insecurity, or trust. It’s vital to respect their home.
❎ Ladies, don’t tie a wrapper around your neck while cleaning if it leaves too much exposed due to a lack of clothing underneath. Dress more modestly when coming out of your room. I’m not accusing anyone of bad intentions; however, temptations can arise unexpectedly.
❎ Pay attention to the household’s serving items; there’s a spoon, plate, and cup designated for the Oga or Madam of the house—avoid using them.
❎ If there’s a specific chair for the man of the house or a favored seat for his wife, respectfully steer clear, even if they invite you to make yourself at home. Use wisdom in such situations.
❎ Do not enter the couple’s bedroom without an invitation. You should only go in if there’s an emergency. Their bedroom is a private and sacred space—show respect for it.
❎ It’s also crucial to refrain from accessing the couple’s personal belongings, no matter how close your relationship is. Don’t borrow their clothes, shoes, or other personal items without permission.
✅ Remember, the rules of the house take precedence over your personal schedule. For instance, if you know the woman in the house makes dinner at 4 PM, even if you typically pray at that time, you will need to adjust your schedule. Don’t pray in your room while she’s preparing a meal that you’ll share.
✅ Be aware of the family devotion time. Avoid watching movies in your room when devotion is happening in the living room—join the family for devotion, even if you belong to a different denomination. Don’t behave unpredictably.
✅ After meals, please wash your own dishes; it’s disrespectful to leave them for the couple to clean. Also, try to assist by washing any dishes already in the sink while you’re doing your own, especially if they don’t have help.
✅ Depending on your relationship with the couple, ask the woman of the house if she has any rules regarding her kitchen to avoid miscommunication. Always seek permission before serving your food, as most wives are protective of their kitchen.
Please don’t take offense at these basic etiquette rules—they’re standard everywhere. If you’re uncomfortable with the couple’s expectations, consider a shorter stay than a weekend.