Understanding Boundaries
It is crucial to realize that setting boundaries isn’t solely about your own convenience or desires. Healthy, meaningful relationships often involve some level of sacrifice and setting aside personal preferences. Deep connections require us to be willing to accept certain “costs” associated with investing in the relationship. Nevertheless, there are times when we simply cannot be available, regardless of the request.
How to Establish Healthy Boundaries
Your emotional, mental, physical, and financial reserves may not be as abundant this holiday season compared to previous ones, and that’s perfectly acceptable. If those around you don’t understand this, it’s vital to recognize your limits and not pressure yourself beyond your capabilities. Responses might look like this: “The kids’ father had to work overtime last month, so we’re scaling back our gatherings this holiday.” “I won’t be making my special dish this year, but I’m excited to bring it back next year.” “Changing the start time to three hours earlier is not feasible for us, but we can arrive one hour earlier than originally scheduled.”
It’s Okay to Decline
Megan LeBoutillier wisely states, “‘No’ is a complete sentence.” You don’t need to justify, defend, or persuade others regarding your boundaries, especially when someone tries to challenge them. Initially, I suggest not responding solely with “No,” as an outright refusal can strain relationships. However, in time, it may be all you need to say.
Establishing healthy boundaries is a gift you can extend to yourself and others—creating more respectful interactions and preventing emotional exhaustion from others’ demands.