1. Their actual motivations.
They might act as if they are deeply in love, but it’s often more about desire for control, admiration, or self-interest rather than genuine connection.
2. The lack of true empathy.
Narcissists can feign empathy, yet they find it difficult to sincerely care for others’ emotions unless there is something in it for them.
3. Their manipulative tendencies.
Using tactics like guilt-tripping and gaslighting, they commonly employ emotional strategies to shift blame or maintain power—without ever acknowledging it.
4. Their underlying insecurities.
While they project confidence, many narcissists are actually very insecure. Their bravado often conceals a fear of being perceived as “inferior.”
5. Their quest for attention.
They might seek admiration from others (whether emotionally or romantically) even when in a committed relationship—just to boost their self-esteem.
6. How they distort the facts.
They might omit details, lie by omission, or embellish tales to manipulate how you perceive them—or how others view you.
7. They don’t truly regard you as an equal.
A narcissist might claim “we’re in this together,” but they believe they should always be superior or maintain control over the relationship.
WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT FOR YOU.
If this resonates with you, understand that you’re not imagining things. You’re not overanalyzing. Experiencing narcissistic abuse is genuine—and identifying the patterns is the initial stride towards healing and reclaiming your voice.
You deserve a relationship founded on honesty, empathy, respect, and mutual caring.