“We’ve just drifted apart.”
This is one of the most heart-wrenching phrases I hear during counseling sessions.
Not due to its dramatics, but because it’s so prevalent—and entirely preventable.
After all, no one enters marriage anticipating they will stop loving their partner.
But life gets busy.
Children arrive.
Bills accumulate.
Schedules conflict.
Romance fades away.
And soon enough, you find yourself beside someone you barely recognize, questioning where the excitement went.
Here’s the truth that’s often overlooked:
> You don’t just stop loving someone; you stop doing the things that sparked that love.
❤️ LOVE ISN’T A DESTINATION; IT’S A CHOICE MADE EVERY DAY.
Falling in love may be effortless.
Staying in love requires intention.
To keep the fire alive for years to come, you must actively nurture love rather than allowing it to stagnate.
Here’s the secret:
> Couples who continue to flirt, laugh, connect, and evolve together are not merely lucky. They are intentional.
🛑7 TIPS FOR CONTINUOUSLY FALLING IN LOVE WITH THE SAME PERSON
1. Go on Dates Every Week—No Exceptions
Before tying the knot, you pursued one another. You made time for each other, dressed up, and created lasting memories. Why stop now? Even a simple walk, a coffee date, or a homemade dinner without distractions can be transformative. 📍 Remember: romance doesn’t need to be expensive—just deliberate.
2. Flirt Like You Did When You Were Teens (Even After 20 Years)
Engage in playful touches. Share inside jokes. Leave love notes. Exchange random winks. These small gestures signal: “I still choose you.” Don’t underestimate how a moment of lightheartedness can reignite a profound connection.
3. Maintain a Sense of Curiosity—Keep Learning About Each Other
Ask meaningful questions. Dream together. Reflect on your journey. People evolve, and your spouse does too.
Get to know the version of them that exists today.
Try asking: “What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to do that we’ve never tried together?”
4. Communicate Love in Their Language (Every Day!)
We’ve discussed the five love languages.
Now, aim to make it a daily practice. Consistency trumps grand gestures. A steady stream of affection keeps the heart nurtured.
5. Engage in Shared Activities
Travel together. Volunteer at church. Attend a cooking class. Start a small business. Partner in service. Pray together. A shared purpose strengthens your bond of love. 📍 Couples who create memories together build unbreakable ties.
Disconnect from distractions.
Engage in deep conversations—not just about bills and kids. Talk about dreams, fears, and beliefs. 📵 Set aside your phones.
👀 Look into each other’s eyes.
🗣️ Listen genuinely, using your heart, not just your ears.
7. Keep the Physical Connection Alive
Hold hands in public. Embrace before parting. Snuggle while watching TV.
Physical touch transcends intimacy—it signifies closeness.
Touch conveys, “I’m here. I’m yours. We’re in this together.”
🛠️ BUT WHAT IF YOU FEEL DISTANT ALREADY?
That’s alright. You aren’t beyond repair.
Love is like a garden.
It doesn’t wither overnight, but it can die from neglect.
🌱 The positive news? If you begin nurturing it today, you’ll see signs of life once more.
Start with small gestures.
Surprise them with their favorite dish.
Send a sweet text during the day.
Request a “date night”—even if it’s just in your living room.
Little acts of love can create significant waves of reconnection.
🔥 YOUR MARRIAGE CAN THRIVE—BUT IT REQUIRES EFFORT
You fell in love initially through purposeful actions.
You’ll continue to fall in love through intent.
Don’t allow routines to rob your romance.
Don’t let the passage of time dull your desire.
Don’t allow your vows to lose their warmth.
Instead, make a conscious choice to love.
Continue discovering.
Continue growing.
Keep pursuing one another.
📣 Fall in love. Stay in love. Repeat—every day.
What’s one activity you used to enjoy during dating that you can reintroduce this week?
👇 Share in the comments. Your idea might inspire another couple.
You will not face failure in marriage, in Jesus’ name.
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