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1. AVOID SAYING THINGS YOU’LL REGRET LATER.
In heated moments, it’s vital to bite your tongue. Refrain from throwing insults or bringing up past mistakes. Once the anger fades, those hurtful words cannot be retracted.
2. DON’T CHEAT.
Seeking comfort in someone else to hurt your spouse or to ease your pain only complicates the underlying issues in your marriage.
3. REFRAIN FROM THREATENING DIVORCE.
In times of anger, you might forget the good moments you’ve shared and become irrational. It’s tempting to want to distance yourself from someone who has upset you, but anger doesn’t last forever. You cannot have a strong marriage if quitting is your go-to move; both of you need to learn to resolve issues and grow from them. Divorce should never be a rash decision, as it impacts many lives and aspects of your own. Approach significant choices with a clear mind.
4. DON’T SHARE YOUR SPOUSE’S FAULTS WITH OTHERS.
Avoid the urge to share your spouse’s mistakes and embarrass them in front of family or friends. If you later reconcile, it will be hard to undo the negative perception you’ve shared about your spouse.
5. DON’T JUST WALK AWAY.
Leaving the house in anger and moving in somewhere else can be a dangerous move. Your pride might prevent you from returning, and your spouse’s pride might keep them from reaching out, leading to emotional distance.
6. AVOID TELLING YOUR SPOUSE YOU REGRET MARRYING THEM.
This can deeply hurt your spouse, making them feel worthless. If you look closely, you will find many ways that they have positively impacted your life and the lives of your children.
7. DON’T KICK YOUR SPOUSE OUT.
Whether you believe you own the home or you’re the one paying the rent, forcing your spouse out only sows discord and makes them feel disrespected.
8. AVOID HIDING BEHIND INTIMACY.
While some may seek intimacy as a distraction during conflict, it’s crucial to address the underlying issues first.
9. NEVER RESORT TO VIOLENCE.
Do not hit or threaten your spouse, or provoke violence in any form. Mature emotionally to communicate effectively without resorting to aggression.
10. WALKING AWAY AND NOT RESOLVING ISSUES IS A MISTAKE.
If you need time to cool off, return with the intention to have a calm, constructive discussion about the problem. Do not ignore the issues.
11. NEVER CONSIDER SUICIDE.
Anger can make everything feel hopeless, but it’s crucial to remember that there is much more to life beyond the current crisis. Your spouse is not the center of your existence; a disagreement shouldn’t lead to thoughts of giving up on life.
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12. TAKE A MOMENT TO PRAY.
Don’t allow anger to interfere with your prayer routine. Many have drifted away from prayer due to unresolved anger. In those moments of rage, compel yourself to pray. It can provide relief.
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