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As a marriage counselor, I’ve witnessed this repeatedly—individuals often delay involving God in their relationships until they see their friends getting married or face a midlife crisis. If marriage is a crucial life choice, then being prepared is essential.
Here are 12 practical and spiritual tips to help you get aligned, noticed, and ready to meet the right partner.
1. Pray Regularly
Marriage is a significant commitment that’s tough to tackle alone. Regularly communicate with God about your future partner, even before they appear. Ask Him to guide you both and help you recognize each other when the time comes. Don’t wait until pressure mounts due to age. Start now. Be consistent and pray earnestly.
2. Let God Guide You, Not Your Impulses
Pray for divine guidance to lead you to the right places and connections. Many have ended up in unsuitable relationships due to succumbing to pressure rather than following their purpose. Proverbs 3:5-6 isn’t merely a saying—it’s a road map.
3. Improve Your Character—People Are Watching
Your future partner could be watching you long before you meet. Someone in their circle may be observing your actions now. Be mindful of your words, conduct yourself respectfully, and demonstrate spiritual maturity. Negative traits like gossip and pride can harm your reputation and hinder your future.
4. Dress with Modesty and Style—Respect Begins with Appearance
Being clean is appealing. Modesty has strength. Style is a form of expression. Regardless of gender, present yourself well, smell good, and carry yourself with dignity. Inappropriate photos and untidy clothing won’t attract the partner you seek.
5. Smile More—No One Wants a Bitter Partner
Be open and friendly. Smile and engage in conversations. Let the qualities of kindness and joy shine through in your demeanor. An excellent character without a warm attitude can make you harder to get to know. Don’t just hope to be found—make it easier for others to see your true beauty.
6. Stay Active—Having Purpose is Attractive
Marriage isn’t a reward for idleness. Stay productive, focused, and dedicated. Follow your passions and build a fulfilling life. A proactive individual draws in a partner who shares that drive. You’re not merely waiting; you’re preparing and evolving.
7. Expand Your Knowledge—Looks Aren’t Everything
Read books, attend workshops, and learn from wise relationship mentors. Enhance your communication skills and emotional intelligence. Good looks may open doors, but wisdom and character are what sustain relationships.
8. Cultivate Strong Friendships—Connect Beyond Romance
Friendship is the groundwork for enduring love. Learn to build connections that go beyond flirtation. Be genuine, supportive, and helpful. That friend you treat well today could be your future spouse—or connect you with the right person.
9. Heal from Past Emotional Pain Before Seeking Love
Someone hurting can unintentionally harm their partner. Consider counseling if necessary. Address past issues like rejection or heartbreak. Don’t bring unresolved trauma into your marriage; it won’t vanish at the altar.
10. Prioritize Personal Hygiene—Cleanliness Speaks Volumes
Take care of body odor, maintain oral hygiene, and wear clean clothes. You don’t need expensive fragrances—just stay fresh and presentable. No one wishes to discover someone who appears as if they’ve been out of sight for years.
11. Anticipate, Believe, and Get Ready
Having expectations can attract positive outcomes. If you believe marriage is in your future, your actions will reflect that hope. As Hebrews 11:1 explains, faith is about confident expectation. Let your faith show in your demeanor, confidence, and readiness. Avoid saying “marriage isn’t for everyone” just because you’re weary of waiting. Expectation is crucial for manifestation.
If you desire a prayerful spouse, be a prayerful individual. If you seek a kind, supportive partner, embody those qualities yourself. You attract those who mirror your essence, not merely your desires. Marriage is less about finding perfection and more about preparing to be the right partner.
CONCLUDING THOUGHT:
God will not connect you with someone if you’re not yet prepared to be someone’s answered prayer. Your growth is the basis of attraction. Don’t just wait—rise, prepare, and position yourself.
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May you experience blessings in marriage, in Jesus’ name.
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