“Do you have feelings for her?” I heard a group of young men asking each other.
Feeling attracted to someone.
Being attracted to someone means enjoying spending time with them, eagerly anticipating your next meeting, and feeling thrilled about seeing them again.
Did you know that your partner can love you deeply but not truly appreciate being around you?
Indeed, love can be a choice. You can decide to love someone even if their company isn’t enjoyable. However, attraction is more instinctual; it’s about your ability to draw someone close to you.
There are husbands who genuinely love their wives. They are loyal and would never cheat, but they purposefully come home late, ignore their wives’ calls, don’t reply to texts, speak very little, and find reasons to avoid their wives because they find them unlikable. These wives may be difficult, emotionally taxing, argumentative, quick to anger, and often make small issues seem huge, which makes them hard to be around. Such men don’t wish to leave their marriage; they love their spouse but cannot tolerate her behavior. They often ponder silently why she acts so destructively. They hope for change but steer clear of confrontations. Ladies, remember that you initially attracted your partner by being fun and engaging—are you still that person, or have you become someone who is challenging to be with, expecting him to enjoy your company just because he loves you?
There are wives who genuinely love their husbands. Divorce is off the table for them; they are fully committed to their marriage. They care deeply for their husbands but don’t enjoy spending time with them. They fulfill their role as a wife and manage the household but keep a certain distance from their husbands. They respond courteously but briefly, avoid conflict while often feeling isolated in their marriage, pray for their husbands rather than engage with them, communicate politely but with little substance, prefer texting over calling to sidestep awkward chats, and might even retreat to another room when their husband enters. Their only physical connection happens in bed, and they often wake up early to avoid any interaction when he wakes up. These women want the best for their husbands but simply do not value their company as they once did. Husbands, are you being approachable? Being likable was what attracted her to you in the first place.