1. I LOVE YOU
Saying this phrase helps your partner feel valued, confirming that your intimate experiences are driven by love rather than mere physical attraction.
2. THAT WAS BEAUTIFUL
These words can boost your partner’s confidence. When they realize you found the moment enjoyable, they will likely look forward to being intimate with you again.
3. I MISSED YOU
This conveys to your partner that you have been longing for them, highlighting the importance of your shared intimate moments. It reassures them that they are needed.
4. NO ONE MAKES ME FEEL LIKE YOU DO
Expressing this reinforces to your partner that you share a unique bond. It reminds them of the strength of your connection, which is very meaningful to you.
5. HOLD ME
Nothing is more comforting than holding each other after being intimate. Don’t rush to shift away or fall asleep. Spend some moments together, connecting heart to heart.
THINGS PEOPLE PREFER NOT TO HEAR AFTER INTIMACY
1. WHY WERE YOU SO LOUD?
Avoid critiquing your partner’s expressions during intimacy; it can dampen their enthusiasm for future moments. Let them enjoy and show pleasure freely without fear of judgment.
2. WHO IS GOING TO CLEAN THIS UP?
Don’t focus on the mess made during intimacy; complaining can harm your sexual relationship. Remember, sheets can be washed, but losing your passion is hard to regain.
3. WHERE DID YOU LEARN THAT POSITION?
If your partner introduces a new position, don’t assume they learned it from someone else. Many worry about trying new things due to fear of being accused of infidelity. Embrace exploration in your intimate relationship.
4. DID YOU SHOWER TODAY?
Criticizing your partner’s body odor can lead to embarrassment and discourage closeness in the future. Avoid shaming someone you want to be intimate with.
5. DID YOU PAY THE BILLS?
Don’t bring up unrelated topics right after intimacy, as it can lessen the intimacy. That moment is meant for strengthening your bond, not for discussing chores or financial matters.
6. LET ME CHECK MY PHONE
Refraining from instantly grabbing your phone to respond to messages after being intimate can prevent your partner from feeling used. It might come across as if you couldn’t wait to finish so you could return to your priorities.
© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde